Tell us your 23andMe story! [–]Doogle89 13 points14 points15 points 2 years ago (7 children). Especially when you're not even right. Apparently their parents were engaged before my mothers mom married her husband, and clearly there was some overlap. My mom said if it's truly ruining me psychologically we can tell him but she's scared. [–]peppermintplant 19 points20 points21 points 2 years ago (5 children), [–]neverJamToday 6 points7 points8 points 2 years ago (2 children). The only point I was trying to make is that in the eyes of the law, the man who raised you is your father, not a step parent. Then, about 3 months afterward, a new match pops up on my dad's account. Nor 'splitting hairs' or strands of DNA. I was legally adopted at birth. My mother is Swedish, Irish and German. Take a few breaths, lean on your fiancé or a close friend for support until you are approved. [–]moorethanafeeling 1 point2 points3 points 2 years ago (2 children). Yeah, the stuff he's posted here could have been copied and pasted from there. According to who? I honestly think my Dad has not an inkling & I feel terrible. [–]Poptech -3 points-2 points-1 points 2 years ago (2 children), [–]Doogle89 6 points7 points8 points 2 years ago (15 children). The daughter's choice to have a relationship with her bioloigical father has nothing to do with the right of the biological father to know his daughter exists. A few months in, my dad did the test, and didn't show up as related... time went by, and questions stated to rise in my mind as to why he wouldn't show up as ANy relative on 23andme. Last Name. I’m his favorite child. I believe possibly genetic childhood depression? [–]SerpentValyrian[S] 4 points5 points6 points 2 years ago (1 child). But yeah it's a great group for this exact situation. We were never close so I don’t have any hard feelings. DNA testing is a booming global business enabled by the internet. [–]bigotis 0 points1 point2 points 2 years ago (1 child), [–]entropywins9 2 points3 points4 points 2 years ago (0 children). [–]SerpentValyrian[S] 2 points3 points4 points 2 years ago (0 children), [–]Poptech 8 points9 points10 points 2 years ago (0 children), [–]mom-genes 27 points28 points29 points 2 years ago (0 children). Please read this post for more detailed information/analysis on 23andMe's v3/v4 chips, as well as competitors FTDNA and AncestryDNA. Ignorance is bliss. As it stands, we're the evil ones for saying it's not right. Finally got my Ancestry+Health results back :)) Family has always been all over and no one really kept track of any roots. Let your mom know that she and her family are not alone. [–]Poptech -3 points-2 points-1 points 2 years ago (0 children), [–]peppermintplant 9 points10 points11 points 2 years ago (1 child). I was raised knowing my mom was 100% Italian and my father was some sort of Irish (based on various McXxxxxx names and anything they cooked being called "Irish" stew or "Irish" potatoes. He is still your dad. Just worth them thinking about this because once the decision is made, they can never take it back. Birth certificates can always be corrected to be biologically accurate. My results on the first screen after opening the app: 100% European. Autosomal DNA is what most commercial companies (including 23&Me) use to determine relatives and ethnicity. He accuses lots of people of "crimes" and always turns up in NPE posts like this to attack the mothers. a person who is intolerant towards those holding different opinions. Step-father isn't a legal or biological term, it's a description of a relationship. The Atlantic article started the media blitz. I'm not in the same situation - my mom never lied to me, and she already had me when she met my dad. After 20 yrs of having no roots or culture other than "American" and being told I've got full-Native American blood relatives and that we're just "English" my dad was kinda right! [–]neverJamToday 0 points1 point2 points 2 years ago (1 child), Ancestry's test is autosomal-only (though I think they do include sex chromosomes in the raw data, they just don't parse them, so you can sometimes get a rough Y-DNA haplogroup estimate, but not an mtDNA haplogroup from the raw data.). Advertising products or services in posts or comments on this subreddit is not allowed. Anyone else get a shocking/life changing 23and me result. No one in my family ever had seizures. [–]petesapai 0 points1 point2 points 2 years ago (6 children). Collective World. At first I felt guilty, but through therapy I came to know that I have nothing to feel guilty about. Your stories inspire us and inspire others! I was told my mother used to sneak me away from my dad when I was a baby to see the "other man" which turned out to be my biological father - but stopped when my dad got suspicious of where she was going. I’m trying to tell myself it isn’t my fault but I still feel the burden. You won't change minds with your current technique. Why? I have other issues with my mom, but I realized that I didn't want her to have power over the situation. Calm down. save. The founder of the group I'm in did an interview on the "Today show" and "Megyn Kelly" and can be seen on youtube (I think, you may have to search). <3, [–]houseofweenies 1 point2 points3 points 2 years ago (0 children), My mom now feels like she has to tell him bc it’s “just a matter of time” before someone slips up & she doesn’t want him finding out from anyone but her. Luckily I was able to find out another way, since there are not any relatives from my biological father's side on the DNA relatives list. [+]Poptech comment score below threshold-10 points-9 points-8 points 2 years ago (6 children). They were separated, which is a different kettle of fish. Answers found on Ask Reddit. 6 comments. [–]houseofweenies 1 point2 points3 points 2 years ago (1 child), I’m glad nothings changed between you two btw. Use of this site constitutes acceptance of our User Agreement and Privacy Policy. You can find them by searching NPE groups, and it's surprisingly a lot more common than you would think. And she has a right to know about her biological family too. I will continue to advocate for DNA testing for this very reason. I’ve accepted that I’ll never learn the truth or the full story. “The truth does not change according to our ability to stomach it.” ― Flannery O'Connor, [–]outlndr 76 points77 points78 points 2 years ago (2 children). She got surprise results as 50% Ashkenazi Jewish (which we are happy to know! You can pick and choose the knowledge you want and you can utilize the knowledge however you like. Step parents have no legal rights. AncestryDNA and 23andMe have both updated their chips since that post was written, AncestryDNA's new v2 chip has massively improved coverage of health-related SNPs (better than 23andMe v4 for the most part, although they of course do not provide health reports), and 23andMe's new v5 chip covers an entirely different set of SNPs than any of the previous versions do. :), [–]dashcam4life 2 points3 points4 points 2 years ago (1 child). None of that is really relevant to your current dilemma, I was just objecting to the other person calling the man who raised you a step parent. I look forward to seeing you enter the group and getting some well needed support from those who know. Sure it happened 25 years ago, but my parents ALWAYS hide the truth and lie about everything. [–]petesapai 6 points7 points8 points 2 years ago (1 child). I just don’t have the greatest connection with him, we are very different people - he’s very introverted anyway so we don’t have much in common except he’s a great guy (usually) and we are related but im scared he wont want to be in my life if he finds out that. The horror story started when a man has pleaded with internet users for advice after claiming a Christmas gift he bought for his girlfriend revealed a shocking family secret. My parents have always been the couple that others were jealous of, hell - even I always thought that no guy was ever right for me bc I never got along with anyone like how my parents get along. Unlike the horror stories you have heard, we will never tell you anything you don’t want to know. In some places, commercial tests are banned. [–]peppermintplant 17 points18 points19 points 2 years ago (1 child). It's going to be tough to process and yeah it is shocking and hurts like hell at first, but it will get better. But he does seem to hate women! I can't even imagine what I'd do in this situation. That is not the standard definition of the word in America. Sometimes I can’t help but think keeping things quiet is the best way to go. My sister (100% his daughter) has red hair and freckles... [+]Kudzu56 comment score below threshold-7 points-6 points-5 points 2 years ago (6 children). If you want to run an advertisement for a product or service, you need to use reddit ads to do so. Spit in a little tube, mail it in, and wait for the results. [–]bigotis 17 points18 points19 points 2 years ago (14 children). They have come this far with the mothers deceit already and have a fine relationship. I hope it works out. Not her stepdad. I’ve accepted that I’ll never learn the truth or the full story. Adoptive parents are legal parents, aka the parents recognized by the courts. Mitochondrial DNA is a completely separate entity from any of the chromosomes. Technically her birth certificate is fraudulent. I'm sorry your family is going through this. At the end of the day, this isn’t your fault! I guess what I'm trying to say is, if you want your mom to tell your dad the truth, then it should happen. "Step parent" is almost exclusively used for someone who is filling a spot that would normally be held by a legal parent. It's pedantic, I know, but at some point in the future it may become relevant, usually with estate law. She admits my dad doesn’t know. [–]Poptech -2 points-1 points0 points 2 years ago (0 children). Due to the family dynamic, of my mother and her apparently adoptive father becoming estranged as adults anyway, it would have been so much easier if we had all known the truth. Being a "carrier" means you "carry" one genetic variant for a condition. Both my parents don’t know I met my bio father and half brothers. My sister is fine. This feature locates other 23andMe members that match your DNA. I won’t be asking her any more questions since I can’t trust I’ll get the truth. 2.9k. British/Irish, Polish, Swedish and German. BuzzFeed Junior Writer. Her step dad has a right to know he has been lied to you people are unbelievable. 174. ... helix vs 23andme reddit, what does 23andme tell you reddit, 23andme health report reddit. Picks whatever dictionary has the definition that most closely lines up with the thing he believes or is trying to argue. If any changes have occurred since finding out, it's that my familial relationships have strengthened. be a parent to me. Just be prepared for that. We're the children of the people who raised us, no matter what. Failure to abide by this rule will result in a permanent ban. My dad and I are amateur genealogists, and we did 23andMe to help with our family tree. I don’t think my mom will tell him if I don’t. Genetics are not everything to the courts and a person who has acted in the role of a father for a prolonged period of time can often not be removed from the birth certificate, even it's proven he's not the biological father. If you need to just vent to someone who understands, feel free to PM me. [–]neverJamToday 6 points7 points8 points 2 years ago (0 children). You're not helping anyone by being so pedantic. I did a test with 23andme and discovered an aunt who was the product of my paternal grandfather's affair while in the military. But what if the daughter doesn't want a relationship with him? Seriously. Sex chromosomes, X and Y, are not the same thing as mtDNA. For individuals who have purchased the US-specific/international "Ancestry" test on or after September 21, 2016, you must pay a $125 upgrade fee to have access to the new (FDA approved) health reports. If he has raised you like a father then there is no reason to not think of him as your father. The daughter (my aunt) was given up for adoption and we connected through the test. Why don't you try and understand that instead of being a passive aggressive bigot? She may seem apathetic, or that she wants to sweep it under the rug as quickly as possible. It does not detract from a loving non-biological parent-child relationship, but people deserve to know the truth of their genetics, and increasingly, they can and will find out anyway. Of course you support lying to men and criminal deceitfulness. Posted by 1 day ago. A "family" built on deceit and lies was never built on a solid foundation. Things. 10. My dad raised me since I was born. This information is not intended nor recommended as a substitute for medical advice. [–]GraceStrangerThanYou 12 points13 points14 points 2 years ago (0 children). People whose families have been destroyed or ruined by 23andme and other DNA sequencing services share their stories. The 23andMe Carrier Status Reports tell you about variants that may not affect your health, but could affect the health of your future family. I'm not sure if she blocked it out or if she truly was black out with this bio-father of mine. Ive take many tests and they break things down a lot more than this but I am curious on your thoughts. That's why it's 23&Me, not X&Y&Me - the X and Y chromosome is just one of the 23 we get from our parents. [–]Serious_Tour -1 points0 points1 point 2 years ago (0 children), Once you understand women's motivations, it is easier to get what you want from women (and get along with them better). [–]schicksal_ 4 points5 points6 points 2 years ago (2 children). Punishment is ultimately down to moderator discretion. I know it’s oversimplifying the situation but it’s true. [–]rawbface 7 points8 points9 points 2 years ago (2 children). This has been shocking and alarming for me, and I'm wondering how others may have dealt with similar situations? I feel sick all the time when my Dad and I connect, or have a sweet moment. I don't know if you already have but you need to check out the 'DNA relatives' tool so you can find your biological father's side of the family. We shared blood types, features, and personality traits. [–]bigotis 14 points15 points16 points 2 years ago (3 children). Everytime I read these stories, they make me angry. When two people share identical segments of DNA, this indicates that they share a recent common ancestor. When we ran our genetic files through Promethease and looked at the probabilities for our then-future child, he had a 1/4 chance for carrying the most optimal genetic combination for becoming a psychopath. It happens ALL THE TIME. [–]Poptech -1 points0 points1 point 2 years ago (14 children). [–]peppermintplant 11 points12 points13 points 2 years ago (0 children). That's a good point. Hey - at least you learned something today you Apparently my Mom was black out drunk but did semi-remember the guy but her friend told her she didn't do anything and a month later, things were better in the marriage and they were pregnant and very excited. Key differences shed light on the brutality of slavery. Good luck on your journey, fellow Redditor who is prob going thru an identity crisis like I am. Interesting that he doesn't make the same comments on posts where a married man was cheating and gets caught by DNA, like the one the other day. NOTE: The raw data and chip version is always the same for every country. But again, I’m not in their position so not my choice to make. Yes I guess I do have a "different view". It’s killing me knowing he doesn’t know. A few months ago, I was contacted by a first cousin who had just sent in her DNA. [–]SerpentValyrian[S] 0 points1 point2 points 2 years ago (0 children). I tried to explain this concept to my dad ( who raised me) - because he is convinced 23andMe is wrong and that I am his. So it is now racist to tell men the truth and not criminally deceive them? Note that the number of SNPs listed above is a relatively crude estimate based on a limited number of data file samples for each different chip version. I just feel like shit every time there is a moment between us (we dont have a lot in common whereas my bro and him do, could be b/c they are dudes, could be bc genetics but idk) My Dad raised me and I know he would probably just forgive my Mom, tell me I'm his no matter what and just have another really shitty life moment that he has to try to get over. [–]peppermintplant 2 points3 points4 points 2 years ago (1 child). I think everyone should. Not sure how long I’m going to keep it that way. We hear so much about cheating men. And her dad also has the right to know the truth. lets not forget there is another human being involved, who has emotions, and would like to know if he has a child out there. Merry Christmas, let’s ruin our family! ... help Reddit App Reddit coins Reddit premium Reddit … I have the last name of the man who raised me. We sort people into likely relationships based on how much DNA is shared. My mother asked me not to tell him - ever. What makes me think my father doesn’t know is my mothers fear of telling him. They decided not to get a test done when I was born because they were both going to be my only parents no matter how the test turned out. I also realized that I couldn't be angry at her, because that's just giving my mom power over me. They’re all nice but distant. [–]lipss106 3 points4 points5 points 2 years ago (5 children). [–]Poptech 0 points1 point2 points 2 years ago (15 children). Mom still hasn’t given me a solid story as to what happened. First Name. All this to say, the man who raised her, who fufilled the legal responsiblity of the male parental role, is her father not a "stepparent" because step implies that there is no legal obligation to parent the child. Her dad may already have considered the possibility, if he and her mom were separated around the time she was conceived. [–]Poptech 2 points3 points4 points 2 years ago (1 child). Females can't get information on father's side. I don't know your mom, obviously, but from what you've said it seems like she wasn't sure one way or the other and just decided assume your biological father was her husband. [–]Poptech 0 points1 point2 points 2 years ago (0 children). I trust my wife. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts Millions of people have sent samples of their saliva to commercial labs in hopes of learning something new about their personal health or heritage, primarily in the United States and Europe. I believe this entire time they only considered their own feelings, took the chance on it turning out the way they wanted it to be, and lost. It's not his fault any more than it is OP's. Now that I knew the truth, I knew I had a responsibility to myself and my dad who raised me. She only cares about her vacation. r/scarystories: r/ScaryStories is a subreddit for original short horror fiction. In. Many people use the knowledge for sex, but some use it to improve their relationship with their girlfriend or wife. That’s too great a burden. My mother told me she gave the other man an opportunity to take a test but he did not show up and said "and that was it". I never had any reason to believe he wasn’t my father. [–]MunchletteBelle 6 points7 points8 points 2 years ago (3 children). Also, she should put hers and her dad's interests above his. No one calls adoptive parents "step parents". [–]Poptech 1 point2 points3 points 2 years ago (17 children). No good can come of this. Why should the poor step-father be used more than he has been? ", the way I see it meaning: what if you were biologically related to the man that raised you, then no one would have to know what Ive done. "Half-sister." [–]peppermintplant 14 points15 points16 points 2 years ago (0 children). Good luck to all of you! [–]smeggysmeg 12 points13 points14 points 2 years ago (1 child). I'm so sorry this happened to you and you're having a hard time processing the information. Or when you mention that he doesn't believe in climate change. Any violation of this rule will end with a warning or ban, depending on the severity of the violation. It's the love that matters, not the blood. Her probable half brother is getting 23andme also to confirm the link. ive seen him have severe panic attacks when my mother threatened to leave him last year. [–]entropywins9 1 point2 points3 points 2 years ago (2 children), Oh I'm sure it will just increase, as more people get 23andme testing. Agreed. Technically, if his name is on her birth certificate, he is her legal father (despite not being her biological father), not her stepdad. If you’re an adult and have a great relationship with your father then would it hurt to not tell him? And the donor conceived one which I'm also a member of. ... Story was published in the Chicago Tribune on 3 MAR 1944, page 18. I believe my mother is portraying him to be a bad person to make herself look better. This is in the eyes of the law. I highly recommend talking with a professional because they offer an unbiased look at the situation and can help you formulate your next steps, whatever they may be. He also got to see what genes he carried for diseases and other health information. [–]Poptech 6 points7 points8 points 2 years ago (0 children). A 23andMe study compared genetic data to historical records of the trans-Atlantic slave trade. It is absolutely insane the amount of women who endorse criminal deceit and use bullshit excuses to do so. My mother did the same. Polite Reminder - Stories MUST Be Less than 500 words and 3 Sentences or More. [–]SerpentValyrian[S] 2 points3 points4 points 2 years ago (2 children). Both my parents are from Durango, a northern state. This private facebook group has helped me and 1000's of others. My sister is on the phone with me and jokingly texts my mom “you have some explaining to do”. /s, [–]Doogle89 8 points9 points10 points 2 years ago (41 children). :-O, [–]rawbface 14 points15 points16 points 2 years ago (5 children). It's happened, nothing can change that. They got back together and mom found out she was pregnant with me. https://www.facebook.com/groups/NPEGateway/, [–]entropywins9 0 points1 point2 points 2 years ago (5 children). I’ve been there, it happens. Hey guys, I am adopted from Moscow Russia and trying to figure out what my birth parents are. I wasn’t in a hurry, my kids are still small and they’ll be fine if I go a few weeks or months without that info. She said she was glad my mom told her but was upset she waited until she was 13. But there's this 0.0001% fear in me that even if they look like me, us men, we can never be truly one hundred percent certain . This video features 3 true horror stories sure to scare you. Eventually I get an email that my results are ready. There are many other options out there for data analysis, both paid and free. Obviously this is all down to you but I think it’s worth having a long think about things before you rush into any rash decisions. Sorry but you must be confusing me with another person. We have the best bond and we’ve been two peas in a pod since always. Yah the ancient greeks have some similar quotes but the punch is lost in translation. So, apparently my grandmother must have still been seeing her prior partner, even after she married my non-birth-grandfather. Fast forward several months: Amazon has a sale, I get my kit and send it in. How well do we know our family trees? She shouldn’t have to carry her mom’s secret. [–]Freckled_daywalker 12 points13 points14 points 2 years ago (1 child). Yes her step-father has a right to know they always do. Weeks go by and I’m not excited, concerned, nor do I bother to check on the process. 23 Horror Stories From Nurses That'll Make You Squirm "So. [–]neverJamToday 3 points4 points5 points 2 years ago (1 child). [–]Freckled_daywalker 17 points18 points19 points 2 years ago (18 children). My relationship with my mom is distant and will remain that way. I've been in contact with this new aunt of mine, turns out she had no idea that the man who raised her wasn't her biological father. I really hope things turn out ok for you guys, it sounds like you have a good relationship, [–]SerpentValyrian[S] 1 point2 points3 points 2 years ago (0 children), Thank you, I feel the same way. The idea of a daughter lying to her dad about paternity makes me sick my stomach. In his shoes, that's what I would want to hear. No affiliate link spam is allowed. We look forward to hearing your story and finding out what you discovered using 23andMe. I did 23andme over 3 years ago and found only distant relatives. [–]ravida62 6 points7 points8 points 2 years ago (3 children), You are a decent person,but you know:we all are weak creatures and everybody got some some big or small secrets in our life.You v got your kids ,so think about them:save your wellness for them n your husband..As for your dad and you-well,you are very hurt,no words can express.But do You want him to be heartbroken too?Anyway it’s up to your mom now.My best wishes to you n your kids, [–]Poptech -5 points-4 points-3 points 2 years ago (2 children). Remember that there is a man out there who never had the chance to know that he has a daughter. I know people here are only trying to help. The only person to blame is her mom, for keeping it a secret all these years. 23andme DNA test is of autosomal DNA. My father is 50/50 Mexican and Irish. Depending on the family, genetic roots can get pretty murky, and sometimes we need some help in figuring out where we come from, According to popular home DNA testing companies, almost every person who orders a test … That's a lot for a child to understand, but in the end I'm glad she did. I am sorry all the vicious women on here down voted you for speaking the truth. [–]Poptech 4 points5 points6 points 2 years ago* (2 children). As an adult having my first child soon, I can't think of anyone I'd like to emulate more than my dad. We only provide general information, which may be misleading for your individual circumstances. I suppose I can’t be too sure if anything at this point. ), and it turns out one of her 5 siblings was already tested and she is 0% Ashkenazi. No targeted harassment of any kind. I am second guessing everything I know at this point. Speaking on *Reddit’s Relationship Advice forum, he explained how he had bought his other half a DNA testing kit to trace back her family roots. Same thing happened to me at the age of 28. When talking with someone I know I hardly ever mention the donor thing (seller, the guy wanted cash) and leave it in more general terms because there's a hell of a lot less explaining. Get an ad-free experience with special benefits, and directly support Reddit. Works of concept art or any other fundamentally altered visual representation regarding design or feedback of results are allowed, but MUST BE PROPERLY MARKED AND INDICATED AS SUCH IN BOTH THE POST TITLE AND IMAGE. I think this subs makes way too many assumptions. It is no longer possible to obtain the old (long-form) health reports with a new kit regardless of what country you live in. My daughter is 10 and has been having mental health issues so I know how that is. I believe only the relationship with my mother is going to change. He only ever seems to get truly riled up when it's a mom who did the cheating. [–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 2 years ago (3 children). So ... That is what it means here in America, unless you think religions or political parties are racial groups. Though it shows me as having more DNA from Ireland than England, and surprise German :). Always seek the advice of your qualified health care provider regarding any medical questions. They mixed up my sample, or something. People may have a different view to you, you work it through with discussion. It stinks to find out that your reality is more complicated than you thought but hopefully you can all work through this. *I do not believe 23andMe ruined my life, I believe my mother did. [–]bigotis 1 point2 points3 points 2 years ago (1 child). by Farrah Penn. 23andMe didn’t ruin anyone’s lives. Of course she does I am not surprised. Edit: I'm making no judgements about whether or not the man should be told, just being pedantic about the language you are using because it's incorrect. Yes, it will hurt, but that doesn't mean it changes anything between the two of them. Butts." You're finding this information out for the first time, and you never suspected it. With 23andMe, you get your personal genome book, your story. And neither do you. There are also a lot of support groups online. Blehhhhh... sorry to rant, I just know what it feels like to love someone so much but to feel like to keep them happy, you should just pretend you know nothing. If a married woman has a child, legally, that child belongs to her husband. This new found info WILL be life altering. Both Dads could be hurt by the truth. All was a very broad and brief statement on my part. I later found out he didnt know anything. My older sister has a different father and she told her when she turned 13. 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